Marital status in Thailand

April 19, 2019 - Reading time: 2 minutes

Marital status in Thailand could be described as somewhat different from other parts of the world and particularly that of Western countries. If you’re thinking about running a background check on your Thai partner for example, it’s important to understand the logistics of marriage in Thai culture.

Very often when Thai people marry each other they will have a very lavish and beautiful ceremony. They might pay for a live musical performance, an expensive venue and a lovely meal for all of their guests to enjoy. Of course, a dowry or “sin sod” is usually paid as well, and this can be made up of a large quantity of cash as well as gold, vehicles or property. See our blog post: How much does a dowry cost at a Thai wedding?

How is marital status different in Thailand? Often Thai people will have these expensive ceremonies but they will not legally marry each other, and this is quite common. The legal element can be something of an afterthought which many people in Thailand do not go through with.

Sometimes Thai men will be reluctant to legally marry due to the implications of this if the couple breaks up… Courts can allocate assets and if you’re bringing more to the table than your partner then there is a clear advantage in dodging the legal unification that comes with marriage. Men in Thailand cannot be forced to pay child support unless they are legally married to the child’s mother.

On a side note, if you’re planning on getting married and dodging the legal side of things in order to protect your assets from being awarded to your partner during a divorce, this is not an iron clad tactic. Judges are able to determine that a “de facto” marriage has taken place and award assets based on this – so be prepared to honor your commitments either way.

If you are paying to find out about your partner’s marital status or marital history in Thailand, the results of this may not reflect reality. The practice of having a marriage ceremony without becoming legally married is quite common here. Obviously no official records are made if the couple chooses not to legally marry.

Note: This website does not provide legal advice. You should speak to a lawyer directly if you need legal advice. Please see our legal disclaimer.


Having a Thai go-go dancer as your girlfriend

April 11, 2019 - Reading time: 3 minutes

Are you thinking about having an a go-go dancer as your girlfriend? This post will touch on the subject of men that are together with Thai ladies working in go-go bars.

Many Western guys are in relationships with go-go dancers. Usually these are open relationships; the lady continues to sleep with men to earn a living while her boyfriend back home waits to video call her once a night when she finishes work. If you’re seeking this type of arrangement we have some words of advice for you.

First of all, anyone in a relationship with an a go-go dancer should be mindful about sexually transmitted diseases. Prostitution (as of 2019) is illegal in Thailand, bars are not obliged to send their employees for testing. There are many false rumors circulating online that these women are regularly tested for STDs, sadly this is mostly untrue. The cost of testing one or two dozen women every couple of months would add up and be another overhead for the bar owners, who are in no way required to perform these tests. Don’t underestimate the amount of men a popular dancer can leave with on a regular basis, and don’t take risks with your health.

Secondly, be aware that many Thai ladies in this field of work aim to recruit several boyfriends. They want 4 or 5 different boyfriends at the same time. Maybe you’re not sending her money this month but another ‘boyfriend’ might. How can you tell if a lady has multiple boyfriends? You can’t. Women that play this game are professionals, using different cellphones, different social media personas, and a large toolbox of convincing excuses that have been tried and tested over a number of years. Don’t think you can outsmart a Thai lady running this type of scam, you won’t. Popular bar girls or dancers often hone their skills over many years… They’ve heard and seen it all before. Is she speaking to other men while you’re not around? Does she have multiple Facebook accounts for different men? It’s very difficult to avoid this trap.

If you’re planning to take your girlfriend out of the bar or go-go and help her find another job; then you need to be ready and willing to wire significant amounts of money to her. Popular dancers are often able to earn lots of money every month, and if she’s used to a high rolling lifestyle then it might cost you a small fortune helping to support her. You will be responsible for supporting her, her immediate family and anyone else that relies on her… This can really add up, and it would be wise to perform some due diligence of your own before taking on these financial burdens.

Does she claim never to leave the bar with men? Most often these claims are false and the ladies will masterfully hide their activities while their boyfriend is out of town. Again, don’t underestimate these women; some are incredibly skillful at lying to their partners. If she is leaving the bar with customers, you will never find this out on your own if you’re out of the country. This is where we come in.

We can find if your girlfriend is leaving the go-go with customers or giving her number out to men. We can find out if your girlfriend tells customers that she’s single or in a relationship. As a detective agency based in Thailand, this is our job and we have already exposed countless ladies working in go-gos. If you would like the truth about a lady, we can deliver, and often hiring a PI is the only way to uncover the truth when dealing with ladies involved with this line of work. We work across Thailand and offer free quotes for all work, get in touch with us today and see what we can do for you. Or visit our homepage for more information about what we do.


Happy Songkran 2019 from PattayaPI

April 4, 2019 - Reading time: ~1 minute

Happy Songkran 2019 from PattayaPI

We would like to wish all of our clients new an old a very happy Songkran in 2019. Please be careful on the roads and keep yourselves hydrated by drinking plenty of water. Have a great time and thank you for choosing us.


Read this if your husband is playing golf in Pattaya

March 24, 2019 - Reading time: 2 minutes
Husband playing golf in Pattaya?

So your husband is visiting Pattaya for “golf”, what’s the problem? Every man we’ve ever investigated that has told their partner they were visiting Pattaya for golf also came to the city for something different entirely. He might have paid for a very expensive golfing holiday; he might be playing golf every day. But what is he doing in the evening time and the night time? Many are out picking up women to spend the night with.

Thousands of single men come to Pattaya on holiday every year. Pattaya is often described as the largest hub for sexual tourism on planet earth; with an estimated 27,000 active prostitutes the city is known as a place where middle aged men come to pay for sex. Many of these men are single, however many others have wives or girlfriends at home.

Typically men that are visiting Pattaya to meet hookers will pay for at least one different lady to spend the night with them every single day. This is what we have come to expect and it makes our job easier if the man is sleeping with this many women. Some other men that holiday in Thailand will find a lady working in a bar and pay her an agreed price for her to stay with him every day during his holiday, like a paid short term girlfriend.

There are golf courses in and around Pattaya, of course. However Pattaya is most well known as “sin city” with thousands of strip clubs (go-gos), beer bars, discos, and many other places designed for women to hook up with men. Search online for information about Pattaya and it will become imminently obvious what the focus of this city is for thousands of guys. It’s almost like the golf courses were built to give an alibi for their activities.

If your husband is holidaying in Thailand, we can help you. Don’t let your partner run around wild when you’re not on vacation with him. Thousands of men will unleash their inner demons when visiting Thailand safe in the knowledge that their wives or girlfriends back home will never know. We can, and have, changed this for many women.

If we’re able to secure photographic evidence showing that a man is cheating there is effectively nothing he can say or do to dispute this. The camera never lies and excuses often fall on deaf ears as a result.

Get in touch with us today for a free quotation and see how we can help you.


Is your girlfriend freelancing in Pattaya?

March 16, 2019 - Reading time: 2 minutes
Is your girlfriend freelancing at Insomnia in Pattaya?

There is a lot of information online about bargirls and go-go dancers working in Pattaya. Something that's spoken less about is ladies that freelance. Many ladies living in Pattaya (or Bangkok) work as freelancers. Some of these women have legitimate jobs (in supermarkets, restaurants, banks) in the daytime and freelance in the evening times. Other women will not have any jobs and only work as freelancers, meeting men in some of the many clubs and discos across the city.

So how can you tell if your girlfriend is freelancing in Pattaya? There are many clubs in Pattaya that are popular with freelancers, including Insomnia (iBar), 808 club, Lucifer, Mixx, Torus (and many other places). Many foreign boyfriends of Thai ladies will never believe that their girlfriend is working as a freelancer and meeting men at clubs in the city, despite the lady visiting these clubs every single day. Often times these boyfriends will be unaware of how many different men their partner is sleeping with during her job as a freelancer.

Here's what you need to remember: Drinks at clubs such as these are expensive. If you're visiting these clubs every day or many times per week you must spend a lot of money on drinks. A Thai woman that is out of work will not visit Insomnia every night (or another club) unless she is going there to meet up with men. When she meets a customer at one of these clubs she will earn money to support herself.

Realize that if your girlfriend is visiting a club every day or very regularly, that the cost of buying several drinks per night in these clubs is high. An unemployed Thai lady will not spend all the cash she has buying expensive drinks in clubs, unless she is specifically in those clubs for the purpose of meeting customers. (Or she has lots of money.) This is really a no-brainer when you break down and think about the facts of someone's lifestyle and financial state. Is your girlfriend freelancing in Pattaya?

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Should you trust a private investigator that uses Gmail?

March 9, 2019 - Reading time: 2 minutes

Way back in 2004 I first heard of the term “Gmail”. Back before the service was made public Google only allowed people to join Gmail through an invite system. At the time Google offered the best and most intuitive email interface and I was eager to use it. Invites for Gmail were actually being sold on eBay at the time. I received an invite and started using Gmail in early 2005 as one of the first users of their new service.

In 2005 I read an article which claimed that Gmail stores deleted emails on their servers (even after you delete them from your “trash” folder). I was shocked by this article and decided to write directly to Google to ask them if this was true; a representative from Google actually replied to my email (try getting an email response from them in 2019!) and to my surprise they confirmed that Gmail does retain emails for an indefinite period even after you’ve permanently deleted them from your trash folder.

More recently it has been discovered that Google scans all of your emails so that they can serve advertisements to you which are relevant to your emails. Have you ever been using Gmail and noticed that the adverts are relevant to something you’re talking about? Talk about Chinese food and you will suddenly find adverts for Chinese food appearing all over your computer. This is because Google scans and checks all emails passing through.

We are a serious investigation company and as such we take your privacy seriously. We use encrypted mail servers which are located in Germany and operated by Tutanota, which is the world’s most secure email service. This ensures that emails sent to us are stored safely and securely. Even if the email system is hacked, all email sent and received by us is protected by a high level of encryption which would prevent attackers from accessing any data.

Can you trust a PI company that uses Gmail? We feel that any PI company which relies on Gmail does not respect their client’s privacy, as private or encrypted mail servers can be purchased and setup easily.

Reference material:
Remember when Google said it would stop reading your email? The Outline
Does "Delete forever" in Gmail really mean it? Zdnet
Tutanota "The world's most secure e-mail service"